I was sitting at a popular coffee shop last week waiting for a friend when I heard a conversation between a man on the next table and the waitress.
The man was complaining about too much cheese on his sandwich and the situation almost got ugly with the man complaining about bad service every time he came to the coffee shop.
I turned around and saw two other people who were complaining about their boss at the office and how it was getting difficult continuing at work.
In the mean time my friend walked in almost 20 minutes late and he was complaining about the snarling traffic in Nairobi. Thirty minutes in the coffee shop and I had heard three complaints.
As I was walking out, I thought to myself: “Why are we so unhappy with life? why do we complain so much?”
We live in an era of competition, confusion and chaos. No matter what we do, we seem to be having a few losing moments as we win a few. What do we do then? Of course, complain. The result – more misery, more heartburn and more complaints.
I read this interesting piece of statistic somewhere: “If you have food in your fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and place to sleep, you are richer than 75 per cent of the people in the world.
If you have money in the bank, your wallet and some spare change, you are among the top eight per cent of the world’s wealthy. If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million people who will not survive this week.
If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the agony of imprisonment or torture, you are luckier than 500 million people alive and suffering. If you can read this message, you are more fortunate than three million people in the world who cannot read at all.”
So what should we be doing in life in times of turbulence and turmoil? As you waste your breathe complaining about life, someone out there is breathing their last. Appreciate what you have, be thankful and stop complaining. Live more, complain less, have more smiles, less stress, less hate, become more blessed.
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order and confusion into clarity. It turns problems into gifts, failures into successes, the unexpected into perfect timing and mistakes into important events.
It can turn an existence into a real life and disconnected situations into important and beneficial lessons. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.
So stop complaining and start appreciating. Why? If you start focusing on all that is awful, you will miss out on all what is wonderful. Happiness comes when we stop complaining about life for the troubles we have and start appreciating life for the troubles we don’t have.
If you are unhappy at work, then think of the millions of people who are jobless and would do anything to have a job that can feed them twice a day.
The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one. If you have time to whine and complain, then you have time to do something about it.
Complaining is draining. Nothing can be perfect, neither you nor your job or your relations. Complaining about a problem without posing a solution is called whining. And whining never brings positive results.
So if you are stuck in a problem, commit to talking 20 per cent about the problem and 80 per cent about the solution. Soon you will not want to talk about the problem any longer.
Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better. As Robin Sharma says, “You can be a complainer or you can be an achiever, but you can’t be both.”
Life does not have to be easy or perfect or exactly as you anticipated. When you choose to be happy and grateful for the good things you have, you automatically fill your life with positivity and peace and watch miracles happen.
Remember, what consumes your mind, controls your life.
Sri Bharatam is the founder and chief mentor of Kuza Biashara, a capacity building organisation coaching youth and SME owners across Africa. Sri chairs Entrepreneurs’ Organization for Africa. Contact @Sbharatam or firstname.lastname@example.org.
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