“Running away from any problem only increases the distance from the solution. The easiest way to escape the problem is to solve it.”
All of us have those weak moments in life, when we feel that despite working hard and to the best of our ability, somehow the universe gangs up against us and makes the going very difficult for us. Be it in relations, work, finances, health or practically anything and everything in life.
And when the going gets tough, we tend to do what is most expected of us — either put things off or run away from problems.
Remember the last time you tried mending a relation with your friends, family or a colleague or a personal goal of getting fitter and healthier.
When we don’t see results, after a little effort, we tend to bury the problem hoping that we would be able to get away from it when we don’t pay it any attention, or blame circumstances, or people about it.
This comforts us temporarily, as the blame is now on something beyond us, beyond our control and this exactly gives us a sense of relief. So why does running away from the problem or problems seem to be an easier solution?
Running away from the problem gives you a temporary sense of comfort — that the monster can’t see you any longer, a feeling that you have escaped the danger you could have been in, the blame shifts to something else or someone else, and a general sense of optimism that things will get better, and much more.
Firstly, understand that “Running away from your problems is a race, that you will never win. Because one day no matter how long it’s been or how far away you are, you are going to have to deal with them; you are going to have to fix them.
What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance is understanding fear; that means watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it,” according to J. Krishnamurti.
Moreover, you cannot run away from yourself as you are always right behind you.
Secondly, never blame anyone in your life. Good people give you happiness; bad people give you experience; worst people give you a lesson and best people give you memories.
When you run away from your problems, you might end up having to face them again, and when that happens, it will be twice as hard to overcome. Moreover, when you are finishing running, you would be thousands of miles away from people who love you and your problem would still be there except you would have nobody to help you.
Thirdly, As Albert Einstein said: “We can’t solve the problems by using the same kind of thinking that we used when we created them.” When the going gets tough, its hard to stick it out. Running away is often an easier way to cope.
But running from our problems will never fix anything. And when you know you can’t run away from your problems, you must some time fight it out or perish. And if that be so, why not now and where you stand.
It’s when we stay and persevere, even when it’s difficult, that we prevail. Go on Fight and don’t ever give up! So, irrespective of who you are, what your problems are, and what your fears are, rather than looking outside, start looking inward and identifying how you can battle it out with your problems.
When in trouble, don’t get overwhelmed with what’s happening around, pay attention to what is going on within you. You can connect the dots only when you look backward. The process of self reflection is a very humbling process, it can open up a new yourself that you never knew existed. Re-visit the decisions made and choices available.
If you keep blaming something else or someone else for all your problems, you will never learn why problems come your way. And when you keep doing that repeatedly, one day you may realize that you have nobody other than yourself to blame. So stop looking for someone else to blame and start fixing the problems.
Self pity comes so naturally to all of us because by its very nature, it is very addictive. It gives momentary pleasure or eases the pain as it separates the victim from the reality. Be honest with yourself, appreciate your strengths & weakness and look for solutions.
As much as success leaves clues, problems too leaves clues. You just need to keep your mind and spirit active to identify the pattern. Once you understand them, you would be able to find the way out. Problems are never stop signs, they are just guidelines to get better, so spend time understanding and solving them.
When are in trouble, make sure your dreams drive you, not your problems.